Gay Rights-THE BIG ONE (Gay Marriage)

You’ve seen banners, you’ve seen fliers, you’ve seen flags and parades dedicated to Gay Rights. We’re in your media, advocating and demanding. But to what avail? Right now only five states in the United States allow gay marriage. Five out of FIFTY, only a mere 1% of our nation allows the most basic of all rights to individuals who only differ from the “normal majority” of the nation by sexual orientation. How does orientation define a person? Defining and discriminating a person based on their sexuality is just as bad as judging based on skin color or race. We passed the Civil Rights Act and survived, why can’t we grow as a nation and accept gay marriage nation-wide?

Currently only Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont and the District of Columbia allow gay marriage in the United States. Delaware, Hawaii, Illinois and New Jersey have legalized civil unions (basically marriage without saying it’s marriage).  Civil Unions are almost seen as the “compromise” to gay marriage. Call me old fashioned, but I’m with this woman:

At the end of the day most people don’t marry someone for all the tax benefits. They marry someone because they love him or her and want to be joined to him or her in the sacrament of MARRIAGE. I don’t want to call the woman I love my “partner” I want to call her my wife, and I want to be able to legally say that and not have my government and country tell me “no, you’re wrong.” Is that so much to ask? I guess for the thirty-nine states that specifically BAN gay marriage it is.

It is clear that the progress regarding gay marriage rights are going to be slow going. Massachusetts was the first state to allow gay marriage in 2004. Since then only five other states have joined. California was briefly allowing gay marriage before Proposition 8 overturned it in 2008.

Slow going in deed…erasing progress in some cases…but we have to have hope, without hope then it is certain no progress will be made. Hope is what keeps advocates advocating and paraders parading.

So here is a small piece of hope: tomorrow, June 16, 2011 New York lawmakers could be voting on whether or not to legalize gay marriage. The majority of sources are reporting a positive outcome in favor of gay marriage, but everyone thought the same thing about California…

No one can know the exact future of gay marriage, but all should be open to hoping for a positive change.

 

Interview With Rev. Jerry S. Maneker-Not So Opposite Ends Of The Spectrum After All

“A Church that doesn’t provoke any crisis, a gospel that doesn’t unsettle, a word of God that doesn’t get under anyone’s skin, a word of God that doesn’t touch the real sin of society in which it is being proclaimed, what gospel is that? Archbishop Oscar Romero (1917-1980) “Never let other people define your reality or put you into bondage to their ways of thinking.” Jerry Maneker.

This is the tagline that I was first greeted with upon stumbling into Jerry Maneker’ blog, A Christian Voice for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Rights.When I first saw the tagline and first read the two latest blog entries I thought to myself: “This can’t be real, I’ve never met any Christian who has advocated for gay rights as strongly as he has, yet alone cared as much as this man does for the LGBT community. How is it possible that I, a gay woman, and he a Christian man can share the same beliefs when stereotypically we are at opposite ends of the spectrum?”I am thoroughly delighted to report that I was in fact not dreaming, hallucinating, or suffering from a severe bump to the head.  Jerry Maneker does indeed exist. The retired Rev. Dr. is the shining example of a true ally to the LGBT community. His blog, which is updated on a regular basis, focuses on the many issues surrounding the LGBT community and his unique outlook on them as a Christian man. For me it was so refreshing to read his view-point while backing it up with verses of the Bible. Typically, in my experience it is always homophobic people using Bible verses to back up reasons why gays are damned to Hell. Naturally, I had several questions swirling around in my head after being presented with all this new information. Luckily for me, the Rev. Dr. was more than willing to answer my questions. I warn you reader; there were a lot of them:

TTR: What do you do when you’re not advocating for gay rights? In other words, what do you do?                                                                     JM: I’m retired, so I mainly read, look up news on the computer, answer e-mails, and watch T.V.

TTR: What are some of the books and T.V. shows that you enjoy?                                                                                                                  JM: I like novels, particularly spy novels; Turner classic movies that have films from the 1940s; I don’t watch that much T.V., but I like some mystery shows like the show “Mystery,” and other such shows.

TTR:What inspired you to start writing Christian Voice?                                                                                                                                  JM: I was sick and tired of seeing the perversion of Christianity by arrogantly ignorant professing Christians who missed the point of the Gospel of Grace and who cause untold suffering upon God’s LGBT children.

TTR:Have you always been an advocate for gay rights, and if so when did you first get involved?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  JM: I became an advocate for gay rights about 20 years ago, and began my blog about 7 years ago.

TTR:As a Christian that is advocating for gay rights have you ever received any backlash from other Christians, or just homophobic people in general?                                                                                                                                                                                           JM: I’ve gotten backlash by both groups, mostly from the former.

TTR: If you are comfortable enough, what are some of the things that have been said to you by both groups?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         JM: A lot of hostile statements, saying that I am not a Christian; I have lost “friends” who no longer talk with me and I am no longer invited to teach and preach in churches that used to ask me to do so. All of the “friends” I had at church no longer invite us to their homes or want to have anything to do with me.

TTR: I’m sure you had to defend yourself to them when they brought up the verses in Leviticus that condemn homosexuality, what did you say?                                                                                                                                                                 JM:Christians are not bound by the laws in Leviticus or any other law. We are in Christ, and he and only he is our savior, and not our obedience to laws deemed appropriate to an ancient society surrounded by enemies that needed people to be fruitful and multiply.

TTR: Do you feel that it was worth losing all those people in your life and all those social connections to stand up for something you believe in?                                                                                                                                                                                                      JM: Absolutely! As Jesus says, “what does it profit anyone if he gains the world and loses his soul?”

TTR: What are your feelings about the LGBT community regarding rights and where they fit into society?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         JM: Right now, LGBT people are second class citizens in society, and will remain so unless and until meaningful activism is generated at both the organizational and grassroots levels; LGBT people are not content with that second class status; frivolous and counterproductive displays are replaced by coordinated activism, such as taking one homophobic church in each city or jurisdiction and picketing that church each and every Sunday service, showing how what they preach is opposed to the Gospel message.

TTR:What do you think of the Baptist group from awhile back that was protesting at the funerals of fallen marines because they felt that God was punishing America for allowing gay marriage in some states?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           JM: They’re clearly not Christians, but mere haters who want their 15 minutes of fame.

TTR: So, obviously there are “Christians” who give Christians a bad name. Do you sometimes feel that there are gay people who give gay people a bad name?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           JM: Yes! When gay people refer to themselves and to each other as “queers, “ “fags,” “dykes,” and “trannies,” that gives them a bad name to potential straight allies, and reinforces the hate of homophobes who regularly use those hateful words to define LGBT people. Moreover, marching down Market Street in San Francisco half or fully naked during pride parades; which have, in my opinion, long outlived their usefulness. Equates “gay” with “sex,” and has straight people merely see gay people as sexual beings, and not as full human beings.

TTR: How do you feel pride parades were useful in the past?                                                                                                                                  JM: They helped people be comfortable with their identity and helped in-group solidarity of LGBT people. They were useful for several years after stonewall, but are no longer useful as they exist.

TTR: Do you think it’s ever going to be possible to get the parades back to what they once were?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               JM: Only if people get over the Mardi Gras atmosphere of the parades and convert that energy to political and social agitation. Pride parades have long outlived their usefulness.

TTR: How do you feel about the recent rulings on the Anti-Homosexuality bill in Uganda, and how do you feel about the current laws in place?                                                                                                                                                                                                               JM: They’re horrible, and I lament the fact that there is not a groundswell of revulsion expressed by “Christians” in the U.S. and in Europe against this atrocity.

TTR:In your blog you mention how you no longer attend church, do you feel that you have been forced out of certain institutions based on your viewpoints?                                                                                                                                                                            JM:I can’t align by my presence or by my money with hateful “churches” who demonize LGBT people. If I could find a church that was truly embracing of LGBT people, I would join it.

TTR: Have you heard of the Episcopalian church, do you agree with what they preach and how they view gays?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             JM: Episcopal churches differ. If they are truly inclusive, I’m in favor of them; if they aren’t truly inclusive, I’m against them.

TTR:How do you feel about the Gay Straight Alliances, do you think that they are helping at all in the fight for gay rights?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          JM: They are absolutely useful in helping to foment understanding by straight kids, in cementing in-group solidarity of LGBT kids; and helping to provide a refuge from harassment for LGBT kids.

TTR: Thank you so much for taking the time to answer all of my questions. I have truly enjoyed hearing your answers. It is so nice to talk to a TRUE Christian and ally who does not make rash judgments based on sexual identity. I have just one more question to ask you:Is there anything you would like to add about yourself or your views that I have not covered?
JM: It was a pleasure to answer your questions and I have nothing to add save that the word “homosexual” was coined in the late 19th Century and didn’t appear in any English Bible until the 1946 edition of the Revised Standard Version.

And there you have it, Rev. Dr. Jerry Maneker is a Christian man who truly believes in equality for the LGBT community. He believes in it so much that he has willingly made himself an outcast in some (obviously small-minded) groups. He is a beacon of hope, and an inspiration to the entire community as well as its allies. For more on Jerry Maneker check out his blog, the link is located in my blog roll.

Hey Did You Know?

June is LGBT Pride month! Don’t believe me? Here have a link: proof.

June was first proclaimed LGBT Pride month by former President Bill Clinton in 2000. However, June was never declared LGBT Pride month under the Bush Administration. With Obama in office June has once again become LGBT Pride month (officially anyway, it’s not like it wasn’t celebrated before, but it is nice to be recognized every once in a while).

Seeing as it is LGBT Pride month I thought it would be nice to do a little time line to show just how this proclamation came about through the Gay Rights Movement.

It all started in a little place called the Stonewall Inn in lower Manhattan on June 27, 1969. You see, back then the gays kept to themselves, meeting in bars where there was a certain understanding of who all went there (i.e. gay bars). Well, one night the police did a raid on the bar. A “public moral” raid to be exact. Instead of being taken into custody the homosexual bar goers rioted. Shouts of “Gay Power!” thundered down the streets, the word spread and the Gay Rights Movement at large was born (there had been a few loosely organized gay rights organizations, but they were not in the public eye).

In November of that same year the first Gay Pride Parade (then referred to as the Gay Freedom Day Parade) was proposed and organized for the following June. The Parade marched down the same street that the Stonewall riots had occurred on one year prior. Through the organizing that was needed leading up to the parade more organized gay support groups and organizations formed. In the 1980s as the annual parade endured the community grew even more to encompass and support the entire LGBT community. As time went by the parade became less radical, becoming known as the Gay Pride Parade officially in 1994. Than, after the long wait to be recognized in a positive light on the national level President Bill Clinton signed the proclamation proclaiming June of 2000 to be LGBT Pride month. Finally, after all the protesting and picketing and advocating the LGBT community gained recognition.

However, this recognition does not mean that all the problems the LGBT community has faced in the past simply vanish. The Gay Rights Movement is still very much alive and will not cease until we have been given all the rights that we deserve. As I have said multiple times in the past: It is only through education about the LGBT community that we can ever hope to attain these rights. The proclaiming of June as LGBT Pride month is definitely a step in the right direction.

 

 

But I’m A Cheerleader-A Movie Worth Gracing Your T.V. Screen

But I’m A Cheerleader directed by Jamie Babbit starring Natasha Lyvonne and Clea DuVall is a delightful comedy with sapphic themes. The story follows the life of happy go lucky cheerleader, Megan. Megan has it all going for her, she is pretty, popular, captain of the cheerleaders, and is the girlfriend of the star quarterback (who she may or may not dislike kissing). She has her friends, family, and Christian religion. She is a good girl…A good girl who likes girls! Although, it takes some come convincing to get her to see it.

All the picture perfect values of her life comes crashing down when she is confronted by her friends, family, and boyfriend as being a homosexual. Her parents have contacted a camp that “specializes in this sort of thing.” Mike (played by RuPaul) arrives to take her away to True Directions where they will help her find her true (heterosexual) path. There she meets bad girl, Graham (Clea DuVall) who helps her to realize that she is in fact, a “flaming homosexual.” Not giving away too much about how the story plays out, I can definitely say that you’ll be cheering for the two girls to be together.

As a whole, the entire movie is a bit fantastical. Yes, it is true that “converting” camps do exist, but many of the “camp activities” at True Directions are sexual innuendo filled and actually help to catalyze homosexual romance. A real “Conversion” camp would not have activities even remotely close to the ones displayed in the film. However, the inaccuracy of this aspect of the film is not a huge downfall or reason not to go see it. The film sets out to tell the comedic love story of Megan and Graham, which it does achieve wonderfully. However, it was slightly annoying at times to see something that is actually a serious problem be portrayed as being so funny. Gay conversion camps do exist, and their therapies are not exactly fun.

Gay camp specifics aside, looking at this film from the prospective of a gay woman I would say that it is equally realistic and unrealistic in reference to coming out. The fact that Megan’s parents are the ones that out right tell her she is gay and needs to be fixed is not really a real life possibility. A Christian family that is fairly upper class is not going to admit that anything in their picturesque life is out of the norm. They are going to ignore it and hope it goes away. Megan herself is not even fully aware of her sexual identity until she is told, and even then she is in denial until she reaches True Directions and meets Graham. However, the denial Megan does feel and the desire to make all these feelings go away is a fairly realistic view of what many gay teens who are just coming out feel. Natasha Lyvonne portrays this mental breakdown of sorts very well under the direction of Babbit. Likewise, both girls struggle between choosing to “take the right path” to remain in their parents’ lives and to be loved by them versus choosing each other instead and potentially being happy is a great portrayal of a unfortunate choice many gay teens must meet.

Overall I would recommend this film to just about anyone who possesses an open mind and open heart. It is a great educational tool for people who are still having problems coming to terms with a loved one coming out. The movie seeks to appeal to not just members of the gay community, but to parents, friends, families, and allies of gays as well. Even with its fantasy mixed with realism it is still a relevant movie to the gay community and it certainly worth renting, or even buying (my copy is currently cozied up right next to my season 3 box set of The L Word). No matter how you attain it, it is definitely worth the 85 minutes. B+

Uganda-The Full Story For Those Who Didn’t Even Know There Was An Issue

The Anti-Homosexuality Bill was first introduced to Ugandan Parliament in 2009. The bill would have further added to the laws already in place against homosexuality (if “convicted of homosexuality” a person can go to jail for up to fourteen years). Under the bill a person could receive THE DEATH PENALTY (yes, you did indeed read that all caps, bolded, underlined, and italicized text correctly) for the following: homosexual sex between or with minors and consensual homosexual sex where one individual is HIV positive.

This bill is complete and utter crap.

Moving on, as to be expected this bill was met with much opposition from LGBT groups and gay rights activists around the world. A petition against the hateful legislation circulated the internet up to the parliament meeting on May 13th. The petition topped off at just over 800,000 signatures. Along with the petition many governments around the world lobbied against the bill. A prime example being the U.S.’s Financial Services Committee which voted to refuse aid to any country that enacts laws against any individual for their gender, race, or orientation. Take that, haters.

Tragically, not all attempts to oppose the bill were successful. A prominent gay rights activist, David Kato, was beaten to death in his home back in January. This was mere days after his picture had appeared in a Ugandan newspaper that listed him and several others as being gay. Of course, Ugandan police said his death had nothing to do with his sexuality. They said he was unfortunately killed during a home invasion. I don’t know about you, reader, but I don’t believe in coincidences such as these. Also, the fact that the President of Uganda, David Bahati was qouted as saying ” though Kato’s death is unfortunate, it should open Ugandans’ eyes to the illegality of homosexuality” doesn’t help this claim.

David Kato

Fortunately, May 13th came and went, and the bill was shelved. However, Parliament was quick to mention that the bill could still resurface next year. I don’t doubt that it will be met with just as much opposition then as well.

Wait, How Many Letters Are We On Now?

So, this is going to be an overly informative blog about the LGBTQQIA community. And for all those wondering what the heck that is, a basic breakdown:

Lesbian 

Gay

Bisexual

Transgender

Queer

Questioning

Intersex

Allies

I’ll admit, even I, a gay woman, had no freaking clue what the entire acronym stood for. I was more so used to the shortened version of LGBT, which I’m sure the majority of people are familiar with. However, one quick Google search later and now I am all edumacated and stuff. For those who still are a bit clueless as to what some of the words from above even are, a further breakdown, this time involving lovely pictures:

Lesbian


Girls who like girls.

Gay

Boys who like boys.

Bisexual

A man or woman who have no gender preference for those they date.

Trangender

A person who does not identify with the gender they were born as, i.e. a biological male who identifies as being female or a biological female who identifies as being male. In most cases the individual will choose to transition, taking hormones, and undergoing surgeries to get his or her body to match how he or she perceives themselves as being.

Queer

The term “queer” is generally used to encompass all the other sexual minorities not included in the main acronym. For example, genderqueers (people who do not identify with a specific gender), pansexuals (people who are attracted to a person’s personality not their gender), and asexuals (people who do not become sexually attracted to others).

Questioning

This one is pretty self-explanatory: anyone who is not all together sure of their sexual identity.

Intersex

An individual who was born with both female and male traits. Typically, at birth, the parents will choose which gender the child is to be, than surgery will be performed to remove the unwanted gender traits. Of course, when the child grows up his or her true gender will be known, and in some cases this will be the opposite of what his or her parents chose at birth.

Allies

Any individual who is heterosexual, but is supportive of gay rights.

Hopefully, all these lovely images and definitions have helped to clear up any confusion upon stumbling into this blog. Future posts will revolve around current issues that the LGBTQQIA community is facing all around the world.